Life we know it has all kinds of twists and turns. As many of you may know we are currently living with my mom. Seems to be a trend among people our age these days. Who could of foreseen Jarrett losing such an awesome job that we felt blessed to have each and every day. I guess sometimes Heavenly Father feels like he needs to give us a little push now and then. This goes back so much further than just Jarrett losing his job though. I had felt for a while before any of our hardships that we would be living with my mom. At the time I thought maybe it was because she would need someone to take care of her, at that time she had just been diagnosed with M.S. and was having trouble even walking. Fortunetaly the diagnoses was wrong and she was able to have surgery to repair some damaged disks in her neck, and she eventually gained back her strength. At that time it seemed that maybe my promptings had just been my concern to take care of her. When Jarrett lost his job I felt comfortable moving in with my mom because once again I felt like we were meant to be here. It hasn't been an easy move. Tensions have risen between me and my mom, Jarrett and myself, I'm stuck in the middle. After a huge fight with my mom this week I decided it was time to do something about it. I started looking into a loan restructering of our home and considered renting an apartment. I even called around to a few places. We considered taking out student loans to help through school and living expenses. If I go to work then we have to take out loans because we wouldn't qualify for full grants anymore. So it's like the preverbial "rock and a hard place". What do we do??? Take out student loans so we can move back into a house we couldn't afford without them. This option allows for me to go to school full time and for Jarrett to work and go to school. We would go to school on grant money and use the loans to live on. Or I could go back to work so we could move back into the house(or rent), but then we would still have to take out student loans because we wouldn't qualify for grants anymore. Ugh!!!! Choices. We do have a third choice. A choice I had decided was not going to work at all. Stay where we are at. Graduate owing nothing. But can my relationship with my husband and my mom survive. The twists and turns of life have seemed to make the choice even more complicated and more obvious all at the same time. Yesterday my mom was laid off from her job. This is a little bit ironic because we had been fighting about how she wasn't benefitting in any way from having us here. Even though we do pay her full utility bill and buy the majority of groceries. Now it seems that she will need us here helping out just as much as we needed to be here. Can I leave at such a crucial time for her? If we don't leave can my relationships take it? Double ugh!!!
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Wow, that is a big conundrum! I bet if you guys pray about it the right decision will be made known. Of course, you are probably doing that anyway. Just trying to be helpful.
The last move we tried to make was all done without prayer. It all backfired in our faces and we didn't end up moving. The next time we make a big decision we'll certainly include the Lord in the process. Living with parents is never easy as a married adult. I hope you guys all figure out the best thing for everyone.
I'm not sure where all my mission photos are, but I'll see what I can do for you! The early ones are the easy ones to find. They were scrapbooked.
Good luck w/the decisions! We've also found that relying heavily on the Lord is the best policy! We're making some decisions of our own right now, but fortunately they're not as difficult as yours!
And if you ever need a place to go hang out for a couple of hours just to get out, come on over! :)
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